Another question that I’ve been asked recently has been about sex lubricants. Specifically, what’s up with all the different types of lube, and what work best for sex or for use with toys.
The four main types of lubrication for sex and toy use out there are a. water based b. silicone based c. oil based and d. flavoured.
Water based lubes are one of my personal favourites. They’re great for vaginal sex, toys of all materials, and depending on your personal preference, anal sex as well. Water based lubes come in a variety of thicknesses, from thin and runny lubes that mimic a woman’s natural lubrication, to thick gels, and clean up is easy, as they can be wiped or washed away with just water. My favourite water based lubes are by a company called Sliquid. I use their H2O and Sea when I’m using toys or just need a bit of extra slickness during penetration. Their Booty lube is a thicker, almost gel like consistency, and I use it when I’m doing anal play with toys, as it sticks well to the toy’s surface.
The downside to water based lubes is that they do dry up eventually, but you can easily reactivate them by adding more or using water (or come or spit) to make them slippery again!
Silicone lubes are also great. While you can’t use them with silicone toys (they’ll melt!), they work wonderfully for extra slick hand jobs and anal sex. Silicone lube is runny, about the same consistency of water, and a little of it goes a long way! Clean up with this type of lube will require soap and water to get your skin totally clean. I’m currently loving Gun Oil (which really is silicone based, despite the name) and Ride Silicone for my silicone lubes of choice.
Silicone’s downside? It can stain clothes or bedding, can melt your favourite silicone toy, and takes more work to clean off use.
Oil based lubes are a thicker lube, and can be used for anal and vaginal penetration, as well as jacking off. While I have not used any of this type of lube personally, I have heard excellent things about Boy Butter from other reviewers.
Please note that oil based lubes are NOT compatible with latex condoms! Please use caution with this type of lube, and only use it with polyurethane condoms! Oil based lubes can be washed off with soap and water, and may also stain.
Flavoured lubes are usually water based, and come in an endless variety of options. I usually use them to add to or change my lovers natural flavours during oral play. I found that the Hathor Aphrodisia lubricant lickeurs were delicious, as was the Sliquid Swirl line! (I swear, I don’t own stock in Sliquid, I just really like their products.)
Downsides to flavoured lubes may include stickiness, and the potential for yeast infections due to sugars, so read the labels carefully before using them!
Things to look out for in any types of lube:
Parabens! These chemicals can cause an allergic reaction in some people, usually as a burning sensation.
Glycerine! Women who are prone to UTIs should skip lubes that have glycerine, as this can cause an infection.
Sugars! These can (and probably will) cause a yeast infection when used vaginally.
If you want to pick up any of the lubes I recommended, Eden Fantasys currently has an awesome promo til the 29th, so hopefully you can score a good bargain on some of these. If their current promo isn’t going on, use the code “FTC” for 15% off your order any time!